On April 11, 2012 the news on TV here ran a story of a young lady who had just run a marathon in the Arctic circle. Upon finishing the race she bumped into her boyfriend who had been waiting a little nervously just past the finish line.
As the few brave souls who were there to witness her race cheered and clapped, the boyfriend bent down on one knee and asked her,
“Will you marry me? Please say Yes, I bought a ring and everything.”
It was a very lovely, certainly unique proposal.
I know I sometimes tend to over analyze, but let’s do a little dissection of this raw moment. The reason this is a great example is because such a unique moment causes a flood of emotion and nerves. Then those overwhelming feelings color how we express ourselves. In this example we have just a few things to go on, body language, timing, but most importantly: the choice of words he used at that moment. And these are enough to draw out a huge factor which was weighing heavily on his mind. Adrenalin would surely have been coarsing through his body in anticipation of proposing at the exact right moment. He would have been waiting there for her to finish the race and pop the question while the cameras were rolling. Having placed himself under so much pressure to not only get the timing right, but hope that she says “Yes” would have heightened his emotional state. It would have been the same for anyone. The thing is, that being overcome with emotion can sometimes reduce our ability to think clearly. At a time like this, a person’s instictive emotion will make them blurt out the words that express what is foremost in the mind.
By the way, my advice would be to try and say something like “I love you so much and couldn’t imagine a life without you, please marry me.”
And I’m sure that’s probably what he had planned to say.
However the words he chose indicated that buying a diamond ring was a pretty big deal. And who can blame him. I know he probably didn’t intend for the diamond ring to be the focal point of his proposal, but anyone in his place would be very concerned in case she said “No” and then be stuck with an expensive piece of jewelry. I don’t doubt that he had to buy the engagement ring a long time before the planned trip to the Arctic circle. This would mean that the return/refund period had probably expired. And seeing how much trouble he went through to make the proposal special and memorable I doubt very much that he bought anything cheap.
The same ring found in a jewelry shop for $8000 will be available from the sites we list for at least $2000 less.
Combine that with a nice long return/inspection period and you’ve got yourself a winning combination.
See here which online vendors have long return periods, which ones allow you to inspect the diamond on their website, and which ones have free shipping: